Couples Therapy in New York City
Maybe you keep having the same fight, and neither of you remembers how it started. Maybe one of you is ready to work on things and the other isn't sure. Or maybe you're opening your relationship and want help doing it well. Whatever brought you here, you deserve a therapist who understands your relationship as it is.
You shouldn't have to explain or defend how your relationship works before you can get help with it.
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- Couples of every kind
- In person at 55th & 6th, or online
- $175 a session private pay
- Free consult to find your fit
Every relationship is different
Most of the couples we see are two people who love each other, have full lives, and have slipped into the same arguments or stopped feeling like a team. You don't need a crisis, a shared belief system or a label for your relationship to start couples therapy.
We work with couples who are married, dating, engaged, separating and everything in between. That includes monogamous couples, whether faith is central to your relationship or not part of it at all, as well as polyamorous, open and kink relationships.
Our therapists bring different perspectives and experience, so part of our job is matching you with the one who fits. And you don't have to be in a couple to work on a relationship. Many people start on their own.
What couples work on with us
The same fight, over and over
Learning to see the pattern underneath the argument, so you can stop it earlier.
Communication
Saying what you need without it landing as an attack, and hearing your partner without getting defensive.
Trust and repair
Rebuilding after something has broken, whether it was one big moment or years of small ones.
Boundaries and agreements
Deciding what your relationship looks like, especially if you're opening it, and revisiting it when things change.
Jealousy
Understanding what it's telling you instead of just trying to make it go away.
Time and compromise
Balancing partners, work, family and yourself when there isn't enough time for all of it.
Deciding whether to stay
Getting clear on what you want when one of you is leaning out.
Tuning it up
Things are good, and you'd like to keep them that way by working through small conflicts before they grow into big ones.
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Couples therapy grounded in your faith
If your marriage is built on a shared faith, you probably want any repair or growth to come from those values too. Your beliefs belong in the room, including how you see marriage, commitment and the roles you each play. Your therapist will respect and engage them as part of the work.
If faith is central to your relationship, mention it during your free consult so we can match you with the right therapist.
Affirming therapy for kink and non-monogamy
A lot of people in kink or non-monogamous relationships have had a therapist treat their relationship as the problem. That can make it hard to trust the next one.
If kink or non-monogamy is part of your relationship, we'll match you with a therapist who has experience with it and sees it as a healthy way to have a relationship, not a symptom. They won't assume your relationship structure is the cause of whatever brought you in. They'll look at the full picture, the same way they would for any couple.
They also understand the difference between consensual power exchange and abuse, and they can talk about the emotional side of both kink and opening a relationship, including how vulnerable you can feel after an intense scene or a big change in your agreements. And you won't spend your session time teaching your therapist the vocabulary.
If you've had a therapist treat kink or non-monogamy as something to fix, blame your problems on your relationship structure before asking about anything else, or have you explain basic terms during sessions you were paying for, you won't have that here. During your free consult, tell us what matters to you, and we'll match you with a therapist who already gets it.
Approaches we use with couples
There isn't one model that works for every couple, so our therapists draw on several, depending on who's in the room.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Helps you spot the cycle you get stuck in and the fears underneath it, so you can feel secure with each other again.
The Gottman Method
Practical tools for communicating, handling conflict and repairing after you disconnect.
Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy (IBCT)
Helps you accept the differences that aren't going away, while changing the patterns that can.
Discernment counseling
A short process for couples where one partner wants to work on the relationship and the other is leaning toward ending it. The goal is clarity about what to do next, not fixing the relationship yet.
Family systems
Looks at how the families you grew up in, and the patterns passed down through them, show up in your relationship now.
Who you'll work with
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Danielle Foreman, MHC-LP
Danielle works with couples and individuals around sex and sexuality, including kink and queer and trans experiences. She has completed Level 1 training in the Gottman Method, and brings an affirming approach that starts with each person's values.
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Brian Molloy, MHC-LP
Brian specializes in polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. He helps partners build agreements that work, talk through jealousy, and handle the logistics of loving more than one person.
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Edwin Depner, LMHC-D
Edwin works with couples on the patterns that keep them stuck, drawing on attachment and family systems to understand where those patterns started, and welcomes couples whose faith is central to their relationship.
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Blake Brinkman, MHC-LP
Blake works with couples and families, and specializes in couples whose faith is central to their relationship and how they approach marriage.
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Keilyn Mercado, MHC-LP
Keilyn helps couples hear each other and change the communication patterns that keep them talking past each other. She sees couples in English and Spanish, and welcomes couples whose faith is central to their relationship.
Insurance and cost
We do bill insurance for couples sessions when a plan covers them. But each insurance company has its own rules about it, and many plans limit the number of sessions, so we usually encourage private pay for couples therapy. Private pay is $175 for a couples session. Our intake team can check your coverage before your first session.
Sessions are in person at our Midtown Manhattan office or online.
Insurance & FeesFrequently asked questions
Can I come to couples therapy on my own?
Yes. If your partner isn't ready, or you want to work on your side of things first, you can start in individual therapy and focus on the relationship.
What if one of us wants to leave and the other doesn't?
That's more common than people think. Discernment counseling is built for that situation. It can help you both get clear on whether to work on the relationship or go separate ways, without either of you being pushed.
Do you work with polyamorous relationships with more than two partners?
Yes. Some of our therapists work with polyamorous relationships, including sessions with three or more partners. Let us know during your free consult so we can match you with the right one.
Does insurance cover couples therapy?
Sometimes. It depends on your plan, and many plans limit how many sessions they'll cover, which is why we usually suggest private pay for couples. We'll check your coverage during your free consult.
How do I get started?
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Book your free consult
Pick a time online or give us a call. It's a short call with our intake team, not a therapy session, so there's nothing either of you needs to prepare.
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We handle the logistics
We talk through scheduling and insurance, then check your coverage.
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Meet your therapist
We match you with the therapist who fits your relationship and your schedule.
You deserve a therapist who gets your relationship
Whatever your relationship looks like, we can help you build one that fits what you both want.
Or call us at (212) 675-8255
Clinically reviewed by Edwin Depner, LMHC-D, Founder & Principal Psychotherapist